# Relationships Sometimes it is best to choose the relationship over choosing to be right.[[Choose the relationship over choosing to be right.|º]] Real love is not attachment to others, but connection with others.[[Real love is connection, not attachment.|º]] But the more effort you put into cultivating meaningful relationships in your life, the happier you will be.[[The more effort you put into cultivating meaningful relationships in your life, the happier you will be.|º]] Not cultivating friendships may be one of the greatest mistakes one can make in life.[[The top five regrets of the dying — not living truly; working too hard; not expressing feelings; not cultivating friendships; not allowing happiness.|º]] Time spent with people you love is never wasted time.[[Time spent with people you love is never wasted time.|º]] Relationships with others begin with a relationship with yourself. You cannot be in connection with others if you are not in connection with yourself.[[You cannot be in connection with others if you are not in connection with yourself.|º]] A relationship does not have to continue just because someone might have apologised for something hurtful they did. Their apology is a chance to let go of negative feelings you hold towards them, for sure, but not necessarily for the sake of an ongoing relationship, but for yourself, so you can be *free*.[[Remember, forgiving someone doesn't mean you have to have a relationship with that person. It's a chance for you to let go of negative feelings you have so that you can be free.|º]] In general, however, it is best to accept an apology with a generous spirit in the openness of seeing where a relationship can go from there.[[In general, it is best to accept an apology with a generous spirit and to see where the relationship can go from there.|º]] Accepting an apology is a way of saying there is a future in which an ongoing relationship is possible, a future in which something other than anger and resentment may exist.[[Accepting an apology is a way of saying there is a future in which something other than anger and resentment is possible.|º]] --- %% # Reference ```dataview LIST FROM [[]] OR #relationships AND !outgoing([[]]) AND -"Templates" WHERE file.name != this.file.name SORT file.name ASC ``` --- # Archive - [[Call with Miriam]] - [[Call with Vittoria]] %%